Spring 2015 – Diet Survivors Group Newsletter
Welcome to the Spring 2015 e-mail!
(Based on The Diet Survivor's Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance and Self-Care)
As winter fades away, the magic of spring awaits us. For those of us who experienced freezing temperatures these past months (and a record 109 inches of snow in the Boston area!) it can be easy to forget that there's a lot taking place beneath the surface of the earth that's invisible to us. When the cherry blossoms burst into color in Washington D.C. (a bit late this year!) or the tulips blossom into a beautiful rainbow of colors, it's the result of all kinds of processes taking place underground that we cannot see.
What's been percolating beneath the surface for you over these past months? What are you ready to bring into the light of spring? With attuned eating as the root of your good self-care, let this spring season be your time to awaken so that you can blossom into your full being.
Our lesson this month is about what happens when we try to change our weight in ways that require us to ignore the wisdom of our bodies.
Have you ever watched The Biggest Loser? Nothing takes us further from our own truth than the constriction that comes from restricting food intake and trying to achieve a body size that's simply not meant to be.
Kai Hibbard, a former contestant on The Biggest Loser recently came out with her story of how this show is both physically and mentally abusive. Judith was invited to be part of a panel on Huffington Post Live. We invite you to sit back, relax, and watch this lively discussion. Click here to watch!
How do nutritional factors come into play for attuned eaters? This is an important question. Attuned eating means using internal, physical cues to decide when, what, and how much to eat. At the beginning of this process, you may find yourself eating many of your "bad" foods as you react to the deprivation you've experienced. Over time, however, attuned eaters pay attention to how foods make them feel: we often say that we've never met anyone who just wants cake, candy, ice cream and chips, but we've also never met anyone who just wants salads, veggies, and fruit. Our bodies like variety!
Our colleague Deb Burgard, Ph.D., co-founder of the Health At Every Size paradigm, developed a diagram to help people tune into eating patterns that are sustainable for that person. We all have different preferences—and different nutritional needs—so it's important to discover what truly nourishes you.
Think about the idea that foods have more or less deliciousness and more or less quality of fuel as you consider these four categories:
Not as tasty/high quality fuel: These are the foods people tend to eat in "healthy" mode to make them feel virtuous, and they may indeed serve our bodies well as fuel. They have a place, but if you choose them, consider whether there's a way to make them taste better to you so you will want to eat them (or, choose foods from the next category.)
Highly delicious/high quality fuel: the ideal foods to eat: you want to eat them for the immediate experience as well as the longer-term experience of how they serve to fuel your body.
Highly delicious/not as great for fuel: These are the foods people tend to feel "guilty" about eating, buy they have a place because they taste so good. Make sure you're paying attention when you eat them to maximize their deliciousness value, and consider whether there's a way to make sure they're kind to your body.
Not that tasty/not quality fuel either: Why eat anything from this group? These foods may be ones you eat out of habit, advertising, custom, etc. - there may be a reason to eat them but they're easiest to let go of if they don't do much for your body and don't taste good.
What foods would YOU put in each category?
Many diet survivors have found this to be a useful tool in making sure they don't get caught in the "shoulds" of eating "healthy" foods they don't enjoy, or the "rebellion" that leads them to eat low quality foods that they don't even like! Instead, use these four groups to figure out what foods provide you the nourishment you need when it comes to fuel, taste, and pleasure.
(Adapted from Sustainable Eating by Deb Burgard, used with permission. www.bodypositive.com)
An Amazing Analysis of Amanda's Big Dream by Jeanette DePattie
Did you feel shame about your weight as a child?
Do you know a child who has asked, "Am I too fat?"
Unfortunately, so many children already feel shame in their bodies—or worry about getting too fat. As a result, kids often quit doing things they love, which truly is a shame.
Judith recently announced that Amanda's Big Dream is now available. Jeanette DePattie, author of The Fat Chick Works Out, wrote a review on her blog that captures all of the nuances of Amanda's story – here is an excerpt of the message that will benefit both children and parents:
Want to learn more? Visit www.amandasbigdream.com
And PLEASE help us spread the word about Amanda's Big Dream. Buy it, tell someone about it, recommend it to a therapist, pediatrician or other health professional. Donate a copy to your local library. (We sell it at the lowest price allowable through Create Space/Amazon in hopes of helping the next generation to have a healthy body image and avoid the diet binge trap). Your voice makes a difference!
Sign up for workshops in Evanston and Deerfield, IL
- Are you in the Chicago area? Join Judith for her two upcoming workshops at the end of April, Mindful Eating: Making Peace With Food
- Evanston, IL: Sunday, April 26th, 10am – 12pm at Curt's Café South, 1813 Dempster (this is a fundraiser and all proceeds benefit Curt's Café.) $40/$50 at the door. Register at Eventbrite
- Deerfield, IL: Thursday, April 30th, 7pm – 9pm, Indigo, 1456 Waukegan Rd. $45.00. Call 224-515-8117 to register.
- It's not too late to sign up for Rick Hanson's Foundations of Well-Being online program, offering a wealth of information, guest speakers and experiential activities to promote mindfulness and calmness. Learn more by clicking here. (As an affiliate, we receive a small payment if you sign up through our link.)
- Are you a blogger, journalist, or newsletter editor interested in writing about Amanda's Big Dream? If so, please contact Judith directly with the name of your publication to request a review copy at
[feel free to pass along this request to others who might be interested as well.]
- Judith will be presenting a workshop on Binge Eating Disorder at the 2015 Renfrew Conference in Philadelphia, November 13th – 15th 2015.More details in the next newsletter. If you're a professional interested in this topic, it's a great conference (and Gloria Steinem will be there too!)
Wishing you a season of delight,
Judith and Ellen
|Judith Matz, LCSW
|Ellen Frankel, LCSW
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